Unseen but Unforgettable: The Lasting Effects of Emotional Abuse

By Jaslyn Bush, UAB Community Health & Human Services Intern

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Emotional abuse is a form of mistreatment that can have profound and long-lasting effects on an individual’s mental health. Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse can often go unnoticed, making it harder to detect and address. According to the American Psychological Association (APA) (2018), emotional abuse is defined as “a pattern of behavior in which one person deliberately and repeatedly subjects another to nonphysical acts that are detrimental to behavioral and affective functioning and overall mental well-being.”

Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse, affecting self-esteem, mental well-being, and overall quality of life. Emotional abuse involves behaviors that manipulate, degrade, or control another person through tactics such as belittling, humiliation, intimidation, and constant criticism (Graham-Kevan & Archer, 2008). It can occur in various relationships, including romantic partnerships, family dynamics, and workplaces. While emotional abuse does not leave visible scars like physical abuse, its effects are deeply ingrained and can often result in long-term psychological harm (Graham-Kevan & Archer, 2008).

One of the primary characteristics of emotional abuse is the erosion of the victim’s self-esteem. Abusers often use tactics like gaslighting—making the victim question their sense of reality—leading to confusion, self-doubt, and insecurity. Over time, the individual may begin to internalize negative messages, believing they are unworthy, inadequate, or incapable of achieving happiness or success (Swan & Snow, 2002).

Psychological Effects of Emotional Abuse

Victims of psychological abuse may often experience heightened levels of anxiety and depression because of ongoing stress and manipulation. A study by Lawrence et al. (2020) found that individuals who experienced emotional abuse were more likely to report higher levels of depression, anxiety, and self-harm behaviors compared to those who had not been abused. The lack of visible scars from emotional abuse can make it harder for others to recognize the trauma a person is undergoing, leaving individuals feeling isolated and unsupported.

Emotional abuse also disrupts an individual’s ability to form healthy relationships. Victims may struggle with trust issues, low self-worth, and an inability to set boundaries, which can affect their social interactions and lead to further isolation. This cycle of isolation and emotional turmoil perpetuates the abuse, making it even harder to escape from unhealthy dynamics (Graham-Kevan & Archer, 2008).

Emotional abuse is a silent yet devastating form of mistreatment that can have severe effects on mental health. Its impact is often long-lasting, affecting self-esteem, causing anxiety and depression, and hindering the ability to form healthy relationships. It’s important to realize that emotional abuse can happen within any type of relationship, not just romantic ones. Have you experienced emotional abuse? If so, are you willing to share your stories to support others who are living with emotional abuse? Feel free to share your thoughts below or interact with us on Facebook at the WilkinsonWellnessLab.

References

American Psychological Association. “APA Dictionary of Psychology.” Dictionary.apa.org, 19 Apr. 2018, dictionary.apa.org/emotional-abuse.

Graham-Kevan, N., & Archer, J. (2008). Emotional abuse in relationships: A study of its prevalence and impact. Journal of Family Violence, 23(8), 561-570. 

Lawrence, E., Yoon, M., & Langer, A. (2020). The psychological impact of emotional abuse: A review. Psychology of Violence, 10(4), 423-432. 

Swan, S. C., & Snow, D. L. (2002). A typology of women’s responses to abusive relationships. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 26(2), 128-138. 


You Better Believe Them

By Reginia Dodson | UAB Community Health and Human Services Intern

In the famous words of Maya Angelou, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” (Maya Angelou, 2023). Often, we as women, and most importantly black women tend to overlook all of the warning signs of a toxic relationship. This may include a romantic, friendship, or even a professional relationship.

Abuse is a pattern of behavior used by one person to gain and maintain power and control over another (Team, 2021). DMost women often ignore the tell-tale signs of an abuser, Abuse comes in all forms such as verbal, physical, and financial. It can come in form of your good friend that always needs to borrow that little $40 she can never seem to pay back. It is amazing how little your $40 becomes when you dare to ask for them back. The excuses you hear when you ask to become a barrage of putdowns and make the situation even worse. Nevertheless, this is an example of financial abuse.

Next, we have the person that always has something negative to say, or makes a harsh comment that may offend us in some way. This is sign of verbal abuse. Sometimes it is easy for us to ignore these statements and signs, or to justify their reasoning behind their actions, but this behavior should not be tolerated. 

Lastly, we have the outright physical abuser. This particular person wants to physically harm you. “But it was only one time, they promised me it wouldn’t happen again “, a common yet horrific statement of those suffering from physical abuse. If someone causes us harm, we should run and never look back. Physical abuse can ultimately lead to permanent injury or even death.

You better believe them all. We should be able to identify our limitations and boundaries; and consider them often when experiencing abuse. No relationship is worth a hit to your mental, financial, or physical health so protect it at all costs.

References 

Maya Angelou quotes. (n.d.). Retrieved March 28, 2023, from https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/maya_angelou_383371

Team, R. (2021, August 24). 6 different types of abuse. Retrieved March 28, 2023, from https://reachma.org/blog/6-different-types-of-abuse/